Finding Joy... Even in This

Today, Rebekah from Hargraves Home and Hearth is guest posting! She shares her struggles and questions surrounding her husband's seven-month-long deployment, and how God's Word strengthened her dependence on Him during a very unpredictable time. You will be encouraged as she shares how she found joy that surpassed her circumstances. Be sure to go check out Rebekah’s blog after reading this post!


 






If you had told me ten years ago when my then-boyfriend joined the Air

Force that one day we would endure a deployment that I would actually be

thankful for, I would have said you were crazy. As my now-husband was

prayerfully contemplating joining the military, I was prayerfully fighting

against it. I desperately came up with other career options for him, options I

was just convinced were a better fit (and far safer!).


Even once he had enlisted, gone through basic training, and we were

married, I would still get physically sick when word would come of an

impending deployment. I would cry, get angry, and fight it with everything in

me. A series of events led to Owen not deploying for the first nearly 10

years of his military career (something I attribute to the sheer kindness and

tenderness of God - I would have been a real mess if he had deployed

years earlier!). But the time finally did come when he deployed for the first

time on July 11, 2021.



Joy in Difficult Times

I would be lying to you if I said I didn’t cry my eyes out in the airport once

he went through security, and I couldn’t see him anymore. I’d be lying if I

said the enemy didn’t come at me with lies convincing me he wouldn’t

come home. I’d be lying if I said there weren’t scary, nausea-inducing times

when I feared for his safety (due to a place he was originally going to be

sent) or that I wasn’t shaken deeply over what my fellow military wives

endured in August as a result of the events in Kabul, Afghanistan.

But, even in the midst of all that, I can honestly tell you that I’m grateful for

the deployment. Sure, that would be easy to say now that my husband is

safely back home. But what is miraculous is that I was able to say that

while still in the middle of the deployment, when I still wasn’t sure if I would

see my husband again in person. I remember specifically taking to

Instagram one day still months before he returned home, sharing publicly

that I was thankful for the deployment, because I wanted people to see the

miraculous, supernatural joy that I was able to have by God’s grace in the

midst of a very difficult time.



Exceedingly Abundantly Above

In the months leading up to Owen’s departure, one of my dearest friends

claimed Ephesians 3:20 for us as our deployment verse. It says, “Now to

him who is able to do above and beyond all that we ask or think according

to the power that works in us…”. Above and beyond all that we ask or

think…this is precisely what I saw God show up and do during my

husband’s deployment, and this is precisely why I was able to have the joy

I had in the midst of such a trying time.


While the deployment certainly brought various hardships for me, my

husband also faced one of the hardest trials he has been through. Without

going into too much detail, suffice it to say that he was verbally harassed

and abused by someone in leadership over him. It was devastatingly hard.

There were FaceTime calls when he would be in tears over what he was

going through, desperate to find a way out but feeling powerless to do so. I

prayed and prayed that this person would stop how they were

inappropriately treating him - and this was all I felt like I could hope for.

Well, God had other plans and decided to bring Ephesians 3:20 to life for

us in real time when He had the military do something the military does not

do. Instead of having Owen remain under the leadership of this difficult

person placed over him, He had this higher up be shipped off to a different

country on the east coast of the continent where they were deployed to,

and Owen was able to remain where he was and begin work with a

completely different team altogether.


God did exceedingly abundantly above anything I could have asked or thought!

And when you see your God show up in miraculous, supernatural ways like

that, it brings you joy in the difficult times.



The Refining Fire of Difficulty

None of us like to experience hardship or pain. But, friend, believe me